But, again, we are all in this lifestyle for a reason therefore it is not a bad thing to ask us. Think of this as if you are acting for a part in a movie about mutually beneficial relationships. Ask for the gifts or the allowance in person, or at the most via email. And remember, this is not a real relationship, but an experience in the ‘grey’ area of relationships. Not through text, as text is too short for something as nuanced as talking about the aspects of a mutually beneficial relationship. It is better to do in person, this way you can see each other’s reactions and gage better how to proceed. It is enough of a relationship, but not too much as it is NSA. You can also tell if someone is lying or is uncomfortable. If it seems that the sugar baby is stringing you along, she probably is and it is a red flag for a scammer. It is a bit of a transaction but not too much either, otherwise the whole thing becomes totally meaningless. If they are too uncomfortable, the perhaps you should move on. Bring it up after chemistry is established, but early enough in the relationship. In the words of one of my all time favorite sugar babies, Malone, ‘Davey, you are a nice guy and I like you. There are a few personality traits that may hold back the SB from asking for what she feels she deserves. Shyness: Perhaps she is naturally shy and just doesn’t feel comfortable asking a total stranger for money or an allowance.I fully understand this, but also bear in mind that the two of you are in this lifestyle for a reason. Gold Digging: Many that I have met have a strong sense of pride by the way they were brought up at home, and at first think ‘I don’t want a man to pay my rent or my bills’. Lack of practise: Maybe the lady is not used to asking.) It’s also pretty common, though I have not done this, to have a monthly ‘allowance.’ The cash is usually in an envelope. Being company at dinners, movies, parties, that kind of thing? One of you all even posted something last week about how the history of engagement rings had to do with, essentially, promising a woman something of monetary worth in exchange for their ‘purity.’ This feels, somewhat, like another avenue to that same conclusion, but I don’t think there’s anything superior or better about which road someone takes.Not to get smutty on the Billfold, but, really, sugar relationships are not solely about sex. I appreciate clear boundaries and expectations, and sugaring gives me that.
I do, instead, have a ‘date rate.’ (I can see how that might be splitting hairs, but it feels different! I don’t see anything wrong with individual women doing whatever* they think is best for them in order to feel secure.
SB: Hahaha, no, I don’t feel like there is anything “50 Shades” about it, but I’m seeing it from the inside.
Are you able to pursue romantic relationships on the side?
I actually don’t know a single other person who claims to have sugar daddies, so I don’t know how other people see it, but I definitely see it as work.
The main differences in my sugar relationships: I’m dating much older men, I stay (even more) romantically reserved than I normally do, and there’s a clear arrangement with regards to money.