Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.I’d try to spin it in a slightly more positive way, but I can’t.So instead of giving up on the whole thing – which, as you know – is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus?
Whether it’s fair or not is debatable, but that’s how I felt at the time.
Instead of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old guys who are in the exact same spot in life, who understand your predicament, who have obligations of their own, and who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets THEM.
You shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time. So I stay away from that for the same reasons that men stay away from women with children..
but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world!
It seems almost impossible for men to see past that.